New Year. New Thoughts. New Schedule. New Me.
It’s 2013 and people are all excited about their New Year’s Resolutions and reinventing themselves. Starting from scratch. Going back to the drawing board to better the end result.
Most have made the goal of weight loss, to be more organized, or to save more money. By this time in the year some are realizing how hard their resolution really is going to be and are second guessing their decision. Some have already thrown their resolution out the window because they already hate it and have failed. And some have actually kept right on track and continued to achieve their goal. Kudos to those that are still going.
You create your huge, lofty goals with hopes to achieve them by a certain time. Ambition is something everyone should have – it’s what makes the world go ’round. But, why do we make these huge, lofty goals at the beginning of every year when the majority is always disappointed in the end? How many people do you know that still remember their resolution in July and are still keeping to it? My guess is not many.
Resolutions are worthless.
This is why this year I refuse to make one. Sure, I would like to lose some weight, be more organized and save more money but I’m not going to hold myself to it. I like unhealthy foods, I know my bedroom will always be a disaster, and I know I spend money on ridiculous things. Why set myself up for failure?
Don’t worry, I still have goals.
I do have goals for 2013, though. I do want to accomplish something. I actually want to accomplish a lot of things but by no means are they going to be labeled ‘resolutions.’ I will share a few with you:
Swim at least 25 miles
It looks easy but its not – swimming 25 miles is NOT like running 25 miles, especially when you only have maybe an hour/day to go swim (DONE! Image from my Fitness Log with US Masters Swimming is below – edit: July 3, 2013)
- Donate more to Goodwill
- Shop more at Goodwill
- Every time I go I find fantastic things and always wonder why I’m not there more often
Purchase my car
Right now I’m leasing and I want to actually own (Purchased it June 13, 2013!)
Attend HOW Design Conference in San Francisco and go to the ‘bonus’ after hours events (Approved to attend! – edit: Jan. 22, 2013)
Go to the Lake of the Ozarks to do nothing
I usually only go for a long weekend but this year I want to go for a week (Took a whole week off from Aug. 28 – Sept. 4. Was able to spend the long weekend at the Lake and the rest of the time hanging with family)
Place an advertisement in the local newspaper for my freelance services
Or at least have some form of marketing done. I’d love to have more design work to do (Purchased hosting for my website and received a $50 Facebook credit. My first Facebook ad! – edit: March 12, 2013. I also have placed ads on Google Adwords – edit: July 3, 2013)
To some those may seem like easy goals, things I could accomplish in less than a year. Well, that might be true. If I do accomplish them before December 31, 2013 then yay for me! If not, I can say I at least had a goal in mind and was working towards something. But, those are long term goals. I want to focus on goals I can achieve and not be overwhelmed. I want to break the mold of resolutions and actually DO something.
Month by Month
When I look at the things I want to accomplish all at once, its intimidating and I end up shoving it away in my messy closet full of goals that are stored away in the back corner of my brain. Only for them to resurface every New Year when I realize I have accomplished none.
That is why this year, I will be making monthly goals…or milestones…call them what you like. That way I can check more off my list and feel a ton better about myself. I like to think that, in doing this, I will have a happier 2013. For example, this month I have a goal of not spending money on unnecessary things, only buying myself one fun thing, and swimming at least twice a week. I did have a goal of swimming at 6am Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, but lets be real here…I hate getting up early.
I am happy to say: so far so good! My one fun thing was some amazing gold shoes from the Lilly Pulitzer New Year Sale ($228 shoes for $74? Yes please!) and I have been swimming each week. Even made it at 6am twice! Here’s to hoping this keeps up. I love checking things off lists.
Stop being disappointed.
Stop making New Year’s Resolutions and being disappointed when you hate it in February. Someone told me that it’s ok to give up a passion project before its finished. It’s ok to give it up and move on to the next. Therefore, it’s ok to give up your resolution and go to another. If you hate it and probably won’t finish it, why punish yourself just for the sake of saying you accomplished a New Year’s Resolution? What fun is that?
Make a goal. Make a smaller goal. Make an even smaller goal. Accomplish the smaller goal, which leads to you accomplishing that other small goal, which will lead to you accomplishing the actual goal. Don’t be overwhelmed with what you have to do in a year, month, week, or day. Focus on what you have in front of you.
They say the best advice is the advice you keep. Well, my friends, that has been the best advice I have received.
Hope you all have a wonderfully successful 2013!